It is time once again for Flashback Friday with Linda of Mocha With Linda. This is the meme that takes us back in time. In Linda’s own words:
This meme’s purpose is to have us take a look back and share about a specific time or event in our lives. It will be fun to see how similar – or different – our experiences have been!.
Participating in this meme and reading everyone’s answers is one of my weekly highlights. Grab the button and the link and come play along. Linda’s theme this week is:
Do you have siblings? (If not, keep reading – I’ll get to you.) How many and are they boys or girls? Where do you fall in the birth order? How did you view your “spot” in the family compared with the others? If you are the oldest, did you resent the things the youngest got to do that you didn’t? If the youngest, what did you want to do like the older ones? And if you are more of a middle child, how did that impact you? How do you think your birth order shaped your personality? Did you and your siblings like each other growing up or did you fight all the time? Are you close now? Or at least friends with each other?! What memories stand out about you and your siblings?
If you are an only child, how did you like that? Were you glad to have all the attention or did you want to have a brother or sister? What advantages were there to being an only child? What disadvantages? Which side of the fence is greener?!
For everyone, did your sibling experiences (or lack thereof!) affect your decision to have kids or to have a certain number?
How to Rear a Well-Balanced Child
- My mother’s children in birth order: Jean, Jackie, Caryl, Harold, me
- My father’s children in birth order: Bruce, Sue, me, Randy, Ronny
- As a teen, I lived with my elder sister Caryl when her children were young. In that family I was the eldest.
- Between the ages of 6 and 14, I lived with my maternal grandmother, where I was the only child.
Let’s consider the evolution of me. I am my mother’s youngest child, my father’s middle child, and the only child they produced together. This means that, in the various households I’ve lived in between birth and 18 years of age, I was the youngest child, the oldest child, the middle child, the step-child and the only child. I have all the syndromes. In light of that I submit that I am not odd, I am one of the few well-balanced people living today. It is the rest of you who are odd.
Jean, Jackie, Caryl, and Harold are (respectively) 13, 11, 10 and 8 years older than I.
Bruce and Sue are 18 and 16 years older than I. I do not remember ever meeting them, but my father said they were part of my life when I was a baby.
My father and mother had both been married previously. My mom died when I was three and my dad married two more times. I had step-siblings:
Ray and Richard were the children of my first step-mother. Ray was 8 years older and I remember him fondly. Unfortunately he lived with his father and I didn’t see him often). Rick was 6 months 0lder and I loved him dearly. I tried looking him up when I was 18 and no longer forbidden by my father to contact them (my first step-mother did not treat me well). Rick was killed by a drunk driver shortly after he graduated from high school.
My second set of step-siblings (from dad’s 4th wife) were Pam, Gary and Brian. I was 14 when I joined that family. Pam and Gary were already grown and gone from home. Brian was 16. He was my buffer and deflected a lot of my step-mother’s nastiness — until he got married and moved away. I still love him dearly for being my shield.
I have no children of my own because nature decreed it so. Perhaps that is why I became a teacher and took to nurturing other people’s children.