On the day she was born, Miranda’s mama started dreaming about the day her daughter would walk down the isle in the billowing white wedding gown.Â Â Miranda’s mama never had a wedding.Â She got married in a Vegas wedding chapel just a couple months before Miranda was born.
Miranda is 27 years old.Â Her mama has been cherishing that wonderful white wedding dream for a long, long time and now that Miranda is getting married, it is time to make her dream come true … but it isn’t Miranda’s dream.
Miranda and Victor have set their wedding date for February 14th — Valentine’s Day.Â Â Miranda has chosen a red velvet ball gown with black satin trim to be married in.Â Her mother is appalled.Â Apparently there has been much wailing, crying and gnashing of teeth.Â Miranda and her mother speak to each other only through Rena, Miranda’s maternal aunt.
It is through Rena that I know this wedding war story.Â Apparently Victoria (Miranda’s mother) believes that a daughter has a big fancy wedding not for herself, but for her mother.Â Â According to Victoria, Miranda’s turn to plan a wedding and debate wedding dresses will come when Miranda’s daughter gets married.
Obviously Miranda thinks her wedding should be her own — and she and Victor are paying for it.Â She is sorry that her mother’s dream isn’t her dream, but firmly believes she should be free to follow her own dreams and live her own life.Â At the same time, she does not want to hurt her mother.
At this point Victor is all for eloping and just having the whole drama over.Â What started out as a Valentine’s Day Ball (apparently Miranda and Victor met in a ballroom dancing class at the college) for their friends and family with a brief wedding ceremony in the middle, has turned into a family battle ground revolving around white satin, church aisles and a priest.
Rena has suggested what seems practical to me — but again, it is not my dream — a small church wedding followed by the Valentine’s Ball reception.Â Rena has even come up with a stunning wedding dress that should suit both venues.Â What remains to be seen is if Victoria and Miranda will agree.